Grief affects everyone differently. There is no right or wrong way to feel after losing someone close to you, and no set timetable for when you should start feeling better.
You might experience sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety or even relief. Some people feel numb or find it difficult to believe what has happened. Others may find that their feelings change from one day to the next.
These can all be natural responses to loss.
How might grief affect me?
Grief doesn't just affect your emotions. It can also affect your physical health and everyday life.
You might notice:
- Difficulty concentrating, remembering things or making decisions.
- Changes to your sleep or appetite.
- Feeling unusually tired or lacking motivation.
- Becoming more emotional, anxious or irritable.
- Wanting more time alone or needing extra company.
- Finding everyday activities harder than usual.
Not everyone experiences these changes, and their intensity can vary.
Does grief happen in stages?
You may have heard about the five stages of grief, but people don't necessarily experience grief in a particular order.
Some days may feel manageable, while others feel unexpectedly difficult. Birthdays, anniversaries, familiar places or ordinary conversations may bring back strong emotions.
Grief often changes over time, and there is no single way that everyone moves through it.
What can help?
Try not to expect too much of yourself, particularly in the early weeks and months.
Keeping some familiar routines, eating regularly, getting outside and staying connected with people you trust may help.
Talking about the person who has died can be comforting, but you don't have to talk if you don't want to. You may prefer to spend some quiet time remembering them.
If you're finding it difficult to concentrate, consider breaking everyday tasks into smaller steps and asking for help when you need it.
When should I ask for extra support?
If you're struggling to cope, your feelings are affecting everyday life or you're becoming increasingly anxious or low in mood, speak to your GP.
You don't have to wait until things become overwhelming before asking for support.
The NHS also provides information about grief, bereavement and the different types of help available.
Read the NHS guidance on grief and bereavement